What is Red-y... A Promise to Purity?

I, along with some very close friends, have decided to make some commitments/promises to Purity and the many forms it can take. This blog is a tool which members, readers and participants can use to help with accountability, encouragement and asking questions. It is my desire to chronicle this journey's highs and lows... Failures and victories alike. I'd like to revisit these entries once goals are reached... And ultimately share the success stories with all who care to hear in hopes to inspire them as well.

The small group of us has decided to wear a red accessory as a physical reminder of our Promise to Purity. Many have chosen to do this to better serve, honor, and trust in God. We have decided our own Promises based on individual needs that include specific goal(s), time frame, and purposes. If you feel comfortable sharing, please include this information in your first entry.



"Love does not live alone"

Jeff

Friday, December 17, 2010

Temptation weekend!!!

Soooooooooo, this is the first weekend where I'll be in social environments ( had annual mtgs last weekend, so I was very preoccupied). I'm a solid 4... And a bit worried about my thoughts/Desires. I will be surrounding myself with friends who will encourage and support me throughput the weekend. My phone # has been changed to help with random temptations. Appreciating anyones thoughts this weekend... Thinking I should wear a red cape to serve as a constant reminder, hahaha. To others, I say... Stay 'Red-y'... For u will be tested soon! Have a great weekend..

Sunday, December 12, 2010

Week one down...now to focus on getting thru tomorrow!

Since making this conscious promise to purity, I have noticed the following:
- I have found a ton of people supporting me
- found others who will be making similar promises
- it's been very easy
- I've had amazing workouts at gym! ;)

Made it through a whole weekend!... But I did have an Annual Trainers meetings the whole time, so I busy and wasn't very tempted! Ha.

Feeling pretty good tonight.. I'd say I'm at a solid 9!

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Week one- Introduction, Jeff

This being my first entry, I'd like to introduce myself and share my purpose for making a promise to purity.
Background: I grew up, on my own choosing, to live as a 'Perfectionist Christian'... Believing I needed to live a perfect life according to biblical teachings. I struggled at forgiving myself whenever I didn't do so. Eventually, I turned away as I constantly felt guilty and wanted to relieve the pressure of living a perfect life. These ideals followed me through college, a 5 year NFL career, owning a fitness club, and doing some fitness modeling. I have been involved in several unsuccessful relationships. The constant failure of relationships has disheartened me to the point of believing that any chance at a happy marriage would never happen for me. Consequently, I accepted that idea and have since led a life of mediocrity...settling for superficial relationships. This pattern kept me from any meaningful relationships and ultimately from what my heart truly desires...a relationship with one woman for the rest of my life.

Purpose: It is my intention, my promise to purity, to remain outside of any dating relationship until July 4th, 2011. Obviously this includes any sexual, emotional, mental involvement with another woman. I will reassess at that time, but it is sure to include similar promises. My focus will be on changing my pattern of living/ dating. I plan to focus on becoming a more complete man... A man who a woman will be proud to call her husband. It is my hope that God is preparing a woman in the same manner. One day, when my wife and I cross paths, I pray I am ready.

What I need: Most of all, I need accountability as I am unable to do this on my own. I created this blog to gain support, encourage like-minded friends, and to hold each of us accountable. I will check in from time to time to discuss challenges and successes and perhaps failures as well as read other's posts. I will be brutally honest and ask the same from anyone who commits to this. There are no set rules, I just ask that this blog be used as a tool to better our lives and help each one of us receive the desires of our heart!

That is me, that is where I'm at, that is my heart.

I will also use a scale of 1-10 to describe how I'm doing with all of this...as it's sure to be extremely challenging and rewarding at times. Today, after 5 days of committing to this, I'm at a 7. I excited about my promise to purity, but struggling with confidence that I can actually make it to July 4th.

Many of us have decided to wear a red accessory to remind us of our promise. I wear a red band around my wrist as my reminder, FYI.

Hope to hear from others soon!

Jeff